My sister called. When I see her number surrounded by a palm tree, heart and a dolphin emoji (because that is who she is) my heart smiles. The other emojis I would add are a unicorn (because she is so unique) and a Phoenix (because that kid has risen from the ashes more than the norm.)
My sister lives in California and I live in Michigan so time is not on our sisterly side. When she calls two things go through my mind, 1.)YAY! time to share our crazy lives or 2.) “Have you talked to Mom and Dad?” The second is always loaded. Our Dad is sick with Cancer and it has been quite a roller coaster, so conversations that begin with “Have you talked with Mom and Dad?” can be heavy.
Today was a catch up day and a lot of the sharing actually about being the daughters’ of our parents. That shared understanding is what keeps us so very close. We laugh at the absurdity of things, but most of all we come up with a plan. A plan for the best way to approach a situation or a conversation with our parents. Being as old as we are, we remind ourselves of the patterns we know to be true and that gives us solace. Dad has a certain way of being as does Mom. Helping each other navigate is simply necessary.
Lots of head shaking and grunting from my parents has occurred over the last few years. My sister and I have both been involved in some sticky situations- spouses, jobs, teens, houses, enough said. My parent do a lot of the aforementioned actions. We just carry on.
Our lives are crazy and unpredictable, not because of us, but because of the people in them. Things never seen before by my parents hence the head shaking and grunting. I think we are kind of amazing- we have each other, my sister and I.
Life is unpredictable, but what I know for sure is; control what you can control and do what you have to do. Protect yourself because no one will do it for you- unless you have a dolphin, heart, palm tree emoji sister like mine!